Become the primary caretaker of your own parts, so that your partner is freed up to become the secondary caretaker. Richard Schwartz
So much of the pain caused in relationships is because you want your partner to do what only you can do for yourself.
YOU are the one who you can venture inside and get to know your parts and the roles they’ve been playing for so long.
YOU are the one who can welcome Self energy in to listen, attune to, understand and support your protective and vulnerable parts.
YOU are the one who can extend compassion and kindness when you’re dysregulated and the world feels big and overwhelming.
When your inner world is first lovingly tended to by YOU, “your partner is freed up to become the secondary caretaker”.
From this place of both partners being their own primary caretaker, a beautiful intimacy and interdependence develops that is far more satisfying than the codependent framework of the past.
Who is primary caretaker of your parts?