We have been married since 2006, and best friends since we were teenagers. We live with our children in Thailand, where we love the slower-paced life, and incredible beauty around us. We have been on quite a wild journey of healing ourselves, and it is our immense honor to help you learn how to listen to the wisdom of your body as you find your way back as well.
We have worked hard to become “abuse-informed”, as “trauma-informed” is simply not enough.
Trauma happens in the absence of relational safety and connection, so understanding the many nuanced ways humans can be unsafe for one another, and the power dynamics that amplify this, is vital.
Most people we work with have experienced abuse (many different types, in all kinds of relationships) and this accounts for a large majority of their trauma.
Affirming and empowering those who have endured so much is central to the work that we do, as trauma and abuse are so disempowering by nature.
Blaming victims for their abuse is never, ever appropriate- and happens in many subtle and overt ways far too often.
“Revisiting” stories of harm can be a very powerful way to help rewire for safety, connection and healing….but is not always necessary, and is certainly not necessary with every single story of harm.
This is where helping those recovering from trauma and abuse stay in their window of tolerance comes in. Growth and healing happen in the nurturing “green room”, so to speak, of safety, attunement and support.
It is beyond powerful to watch people begin to find their voice, their strength, their worth and their power through the mindful attunement and support of therapy.