The combination of trauma healing + brain retraining  is what built our life back brick by brick, as we stepped out of the roles we had been playing for so long, and into our true selves--- free, whole and healing. Luke’s depression hasn’t returned, and he has learned how to support his nervous system so anxiety no longer rules his life. Lauren's 70+ symptoms have reduced dramatically, she's lost diagnoses, and went from tolerating only 10 foods to eating everything!  Learning about trauma and healing really DOES matter. We champion you as you try to understand yourself, your story and your body- may the healing flow!

In Healing and Wholeness,

Lauren + Luke
















Going back on boundaries that you’ve set is not at all uncommon. Sometimes this is because the boundary was made out of reactivity, not careful consideration of how best to meet our needs for safety and connection. Upon reconsideration, we pivot and recommunicate our needs. However, A LOT of the time, when someone forsakes a […]

Boundaries, Emotional Health, Trauma Effects

March 30, 2023

Going Back on Boundaries

Pleasure is an innately human experience and pursuit. The embodied pursuit of pleasure is a means of expressing our aliveness, while in alignment with our values, which connects us more deeply with our true self. It is glorious, life-giving and deeply healing. Why so many of us fear our pleasure, or the pursuit of pleasure […]

Beauty, Healing, Mind Body

March 29, 2023

Embodied Pleasure

🌬Breathing is one of the few involuntary actions that you actually have some control over. It’s a powerful tool of reflection and also adaptation. What do we mean by that? 🌡(THERMOMETER) Breathing can give you a very clear reflection of what state your nervous system is presently in. This awareness can help you recognize what […]

Nervous System

March 20, 2023

Breathing + The Nervous System

Compassion changes you. Think of a time where you’ve done something wrong and the person involved responded to you in compassion, instead of anger or judgment. It has a softening effect, almost immediately. Self-compassion can be equally as powerful as compassion from others. Beginning to see yourself through the lens of compassion brings the kindness […]

Emotional Health

March 20, 2023

Why compassion for self matters so much

The field of psychoneuroimmunology (PNI) holds within it so many answers to questions that have been the topics of billions of dollars of research studies. It is the study of how the mind, nervous system + immune system (can include endocrine as well) communicate and affect each other. PNI shows us how diseases are triggered […]

Nervous System, Neuroscience

March 20, 2023


When we first heard “STORY follows STATE”, we couldn’t quite comprehend. Let me tell you…..this tiny little statement has brought INCREDIBLE CLARITY to our understanding of the human experience. Our STORY (what we think/believe cognitively from moment to moment) is a DIRECT result of our nervous system STATE. When you develop this understanding of how […]

Nervous System

March 20, 2023

Story Follows State

🗣”A normal response to an abnormal situation”. We have shared that statement so often with people who feel so much shame, self-loathing, + hopelessness about how they engage with themselves/the world. The research on PTSD in the last couple of decades has been nothing short of REMARKABLE. Such a better understanding we now hold on […]

Trauma Effects

March 20, 2023

Post Traumatic Stress Response

If you could think of sympathetic activation like everything speeding up, then you could think of dorsal as everything slooowwwiinnng down. In this state: ◇ breathing slows ◇ movement becomes difficult ◇ thoughts turn fuzzy ◇ everything seems lost o/r hopeless. This is an autonomic (involuntary) defensive state of the body. It is a state […]

Nervous System

March 20, 2023

The Shut-Down State of the Nervous System (AKA “Dorsal”)

There are 3 primary states of the autonomic nervous system. Learning about these states in regards to yourself + others can truly TRANSFORM your understanding of what it is to be human. Our nervous system STATE informs us moment by moment of what is “true” about the world inside of us + around us. The […]

Nervous System

March 20, 2023

Sympathetic State of the Nervous System

At FLOURISH, we believe that ALL healthcare fields should be appropriately trauma-informed. In the 15 years we’ve been in helping fields, we have seen the wreckage left in the wake of providers + practitioners who do not understand what trauma is, nor the impacts of trauma on the human body. Are you sick of being […]

Trauma Effects

March 20, 2023